I keep comparing myself

You keep holding your insides up against everyone else's outsides, and it's a contest no one could ever win. Comparison takes your real, whole life and shrinks it next to someone's carefully chosen highlights. The people you envy are fighting battles you will never see, just as you are. You were never meant to be a copy of anyone — there's no one else who could be you, and that's not a small thing.

Read one, sit with it, and draw as many more as you need.

Not Enough

I keep comparing myself

The comparing never stops at one person; it just moves to the next, and the next, until you have measured yourself against a crowd that does not even know you exist.

More comforting words for this feeling

  • You are not actually behind anyone. Behind implies a single shared path, and there has never been one; there are only many lives, moving in many directions.

  • Comparison has a way of erasing everything you have the second it spots one thing someone else has. Notice the trick, and you can refuse it.

  • When you catch yourself measuring again, try asking a kinder question: not who is ahead, but what would actually feel good to me right now.